tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post604159753719150292..comments2020-09-22T15:40:07.246-07:00Comments on Gratitude In Grief: Grief Versus DepressionKelly Buckleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15839157423520819880noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-90810877746124989462012-01-28T13:16:31.876-08:002012-01-28T13:16:31.876-08:00I agree with your thoughts and comments. And yes, ...I agree with your thoughts and comments. And yes, if there was a pill that could speed up the grieving process, it would sell like hotcakes! I would love to take a pill that could make me feel like I did before losing my sister. And I would love to give this pill to my parents as well. Two weeks after my sister's sudden passing my doctor put me on Zoloft. I took it for a week and then threw it away. Crying and feeling the loss of a close family member allows for tears. I will review how I am feeling in a few months but am hoping to deal with this loss in a way that I am able to one day have tears and pain become memories and gratitude.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-23258380768749171992010-04-27T05:11:01.678-07:002010-04-27T05:11:01.678-07:00Kelly, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know t...Kelly, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know the feeling. I am a bereaved parent also. I too have had some encounters with doctors. I've added it to the list along with some friends that don't know how to act around you or what to say. To be honest, it doesn't really matter to me what people say or think anymore. They just don't get it and I hope they never really do. If they want to think I am depressed because I just want to be with my daughter, then I am depressed. If they want to think I am still taking forever to grieve for her, then that is fine too! All I can do is wait for the day I can be with her again! Sooner rather than later would be awesome!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-1447556455407394192010-04-26T09:28:04.300-07:002010-04-26T09:28:04.300-07:00Kelly,
Very well written! I appreciate this piece ...Kelly,<br />Very well written! I appreciate this piece and relate to it. I lost my spouse in an accident at age 30, and also have suffered from mild depression as a younger man, and can tell you that the grief process is very, very different from depression. After I went through about a year and a half of the grief process, and I actually healed somewhat, I then suffered from some depression that I took some medications for. But there IS no "grief medication".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-87088470014574544122010-04-26T09:01:04.142-07:002010-04-26T09:01:04.142-07:00Kelly, thanks for this post! This is something th...Kelly, thanks for this post! This is something that I've felt strongly about ever since it was brought to light for me three years ago after I lost my husband. There are many MANY grieving spouses, parents and children on medication. The sad reality, as you stated in your post, is that it is not helping the griever progress in any way. A pill can not heal your heart! And, sadly, it is not just an issue with our family physicians, but therapists as well who choose medication to dull the symptoms/effects of grief. I am so hopeful that these professionals will take the time to research and understand this issue so that those living through grief can get the real help they need to heal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-29331190216396026822010-04-26T08:10:35.606-07:002010-04-26T08:10:35.606-07:00Hello, thank you for sharing your experience. I&#...Hello, thank you for sharing your experience. I'm a grief counselor and author of "Transcending Loss". I spend a lot of time training other therapists that grief is not something to be fixed or medicated. It just has to be felt. Thank you for your wise words.Ashley Davis Bushhttp://www.ashleydavisbush.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-34108006213640743342010-04-26T06:11:30.700-07:002010-04-26T06:11:30.700-07:00Reminds me of the time during a regular check-up I...Reminds me of the time during a regular check-up I expressed concern that my blood pressure was (for me) unusually high. I explained to my doctor that it was probably due to the stress -- and grief! -- I was feeling in the wake of my younger son's recent divorce. Her response? "Why are you letting that upset you so?" Did I really need to explain it to her? Needless to say, I never went back to that doctor again, either. Yours is such an important message, Kelly, and I wish everyone in the medical profession would read it.Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05517952534831180171noreply@blogger.com