tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post2936898444926366017..comments2020-09-22T15:40:07.246-07:00Comments on Gratitude In Grief: The Dangerous Game of Woulda, Coulda, ShouldaKelly Buckleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15839157423520819880noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-79202276309384074142011-10-09T23:51:37.216-07:002011-10-09T23:51:37.216-07:00Hello
Thank you for this blog. I am struggling aga...Hello<br />Thank you for this blog. I am struggling against those three words and your reminder to me how futile that is is helpful. I have a feeling I will read it everyday for a while. I have not lost my child. He is only three years old but it has been a difficult couple of years realizing his seizures and disabilities in every area . I am so sorry for your loss and very grateful that you have chosen to share so' much because although our situations are so different I still find inspiration and comfort in your words.<br />Thank you<br />AndreaAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02887239791631531910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-49533594212205234532011-03-16T15:15:01.530-07:002011-03-16T15:15:01.530-07:00I have enjoyed looking through your blog and readi...I have enjoyed looking through your blog and reading about your journey and your insights. It is a beautiful tribute to your son and family!<br /><br />You're so right about regret and living in the past and trying to 'fix' the past, which is now only 'memory.'<br /><br />One thought I had about the comment from your friend -- perhaps he or she meant to say it in compassion -- to let you know that if you were feeling regret for anything, it was a natural response that's easy to fall into.<br /><br />Your tips for today are very wise and apply to many situations. I have not lost a child, but I have a son with disabilities, and all of your tips were a useful reminder for me. I look forward to following your blog! LouiseBLOOM - Parenting Kids With Disabilitieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901482901008135659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-8223825044333112712011-03-09T12:49:18.806-08:002011-03-09T12:49:18.806-08:00Thank you for the thoughtful comments to this blog...Thank you for the thoughtful comments to this blog. To respond to anonymous, I actually don't feel anger towards this person, and was not describing the individual personally when I used the term emotional vampire. It was more in a general sense, so I am sorry you may have interpreted it in that way.<br />I was bothered by the comment, and it was upsetting, but the true emotion for me towards the comment and the person was sadness. I feel sad that some feel life has to be that way.<br />The use of the term emotional vampire is one that has been used by others as well when writing about negativity. I have often said in my blog that my choice to be happy is a daily struggle, and one of the ways I stay on track in distancing myself from individuals or groups who, through words or actions, affect my ability to see the good in life. It is not to say they are wrong. It is simply a way of thinking I find difficult to be around since losing Stephen.<br />I do realize we are all imperfect and that is okay, but also know we sometimes have to protect ourselves when our hearts are hurting. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it.Kelly Buckleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15839157423520819880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-31721832692357965972011-03-09T12:28:43.387-08:002011-03-09T12:28:43.387-08:00You make an excellent point, but I find it interes...You make an excellent point, but I find it interesting that you seem to have a lot of anger towards the "toxic emotional vampire" who made that comment to you.<br /><br />In giving ourselves permission to be imperfect, I think we also need to extend that same permission to those around us, to recognize good intentions even when a friend says the opposite of what we feel we need to hear or does the opposite of what we wish they would do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-7665255541980933362011-03-08T15:27:05.422-08:002011-03-08T15:27:05.422-08:00This has helped me and many others. I lost my son ...This has helped me and many others. I lost my son Danny on July 1, 2008 to an overdose. He was 22. In dedication to him I formed The Prayer Registry for parents who have lost children.<br /><br />This free website service is dedicated to all of the families who have lost children, whatever age that child was when they passed. This site registers the anniversary day of our children's crossing. The members of this online community, the Prayer Team, have the opportunity to honor their child's legacy and connect with other bereaved parents to participate in world-wide group prayer for every registered loved one on the anniversary day of their passing. To learn more see my website: www.sheriperl.com. <br /> <br />To register a child for prayer, email Sheri at theprayerregistry@gmail.com. I need only your child’s full name along with the date that he or she passed to ensure that your child receives prayer every year on the anniversary day of his or her passing.Sheri Perlhttp://www.sheriperl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386796068454379814.post-34219457262475657502011-03-07T19:15:01.914-08:002011-03-07T19:15:01.914-08:00Kelly,
First, I love the idea of this blog. Shar...Kelly,<br /><br />First, I love the idea of this blog. Sharing your own coping and pain is such a lovely gift. And this post is amazing. I just felt my heart expand as I read it. I just wrote recently about the unhelpful things that people say when we are in pain.<br /><br />I'll be passing this one along.<br /><br />Warmly,<br />AnnAnn Becker-Schutte, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08811791856947238859noreply@blogger.com